Former 2:24 marathoner hoping to parlay a life overhaul at age 45 into competitive éclat • Magazine writer, book editor and commentator on the sport of distance running since 1999 • Adviser and confidant of other perambulators • Paradoxical hater of exercise fanatics • Chihuahua whisperer Sentence-fragment impresario

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

A little-known bit of wisdom: Sociopaths suck

I thought -- well, naively sort of hoped -- that a March 14 court appearance with a former running client named Kimberly Duclos, a one-time near-national-class marathoner turned world-class degenerate, would put a stop to two years of ongoing, obsessive, malignant behavior from her.

But alas, this hasn't happened. I won't go into full details yet because some of this is resting in the hands of my lawyer(s), but I'm under no obligation to keep the story as whole under wraps. A number of you have already asked for and received the salient details by e-mail as it is, so this will just cut out the middleman for everyone else.

Never underestimate the power of raw malice coupled to delusional thinking, served with a dollop of resentment, self-loathing, and blaming other people for one's own failings, all of it washed down with several cocktails of alcohol and psychological projection. True sociopaths such as Kim Duclos are no more discouraged by everyday hindrances to their foul misdeeds than are hungry termites by cries of, "Get off my wood, you bastards!" But termites are cheaper to deal with.

Anyway, start here. This is a story in progress, using a very tenuous definition of "progress."

26 comments:

  1. I looked at her Facebook Page and without knowing anything about any of this it is obvious she is nuckin futz. Lives in a dark dream world.

    Sad you had to create all of that history just for her....I "get it" and it is convincing but if she sees it won't it just piss her off more?

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    1. http://i.imgur.com/jH80ZKl.jpg

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    2. Might want to be more diligent about your searches http://i.imgur.com/jH80ZKl.jpg

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    3. lol approval for proof. nice try.

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    4. ps. placeyourordure isn't real.

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  2. Kim already blames me for everything from the dissolution of her running "career" to her pizza binges. Nothing I say can make her any less connected to reality or decent conduct than she already is.

    BTW nice job at ES20. ;o)

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    1. It's all FINALLY APPROVED! ALL OF IT! http://i.imgur.com/szOuX4M.jpg

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  3. Wow! I think I found my long lost Sister Kim, same city. She certainly has her unique style but the fundamentals are on par. Seems to have a little more natural ability than me. Still works hard at it though. A little streaky. Game goes into sleep mode sometimes then all of a sudden she tears the house down. Who knows? She is still young. My records could be in jeopardy. She's Hall of Fame material. No doubt. I expect Big things from her. Game Changer. It's really up to her if she wants to take it to the next level. Pleasure to watch.

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    1. There is a certain twisted karmic symmetry to you and Kim becoming acquainted online. You have both used the Internet to your extreme social and legal disadvantage, for starters.

      Kim, as you know from reading the relevant stuff on my Web site, has spent more than two years waging a futile campaign against me because I had the nerve to dump her as a coaching client when she never paid me, wouldn't even tell me what she was doing for running, wouldn't lay off the booze and pills, and wouldn't stop railing about her man-problems -- and this is not even taking into account the number of other nasty things she did in our *first* coach-client go-around.

      Yes, Kim was a hard worker in a past life and could have ultimately run in the mid-2:30s. But where you are assuredly wrong is in assuming she is ever going to run at a meaningful level again. It's been over six years since she trained seriously. She had her last decent year, in running and in life, when she was 27. She's a very old 34 now.

      Last year at this time she was waxing romantic about the Boston Marathon, where she once placed in the top 20, and now, on the eve of the 2016 version of this race -- on the weekend of her birthday, no less -- she has nothing better to do than sit at home (well, at the apartment where her "boyfriend" is letting her stay rent-free for now) hunched in front of her computer once again posting things about me online. I suppose I should be honored at how smitten she is, and maybe I would be if I were not so repulsed. But having someone with screws loose fixated on you is *not* an honor, believe me.

      Kim has attempted to leverage my past drinking problems (none of which ever affected Kim herself) against me, and in so doing has made an absolute fool of herself, mostly online, but most notably in our mutual court appearance last month. The judge regarded her with a mixture of bemusement, amusement, and pity, and not merely because she looked about 50 and nothing like a runner. What she fails to recognize is that I don't fundamentally care what she tells people about me. I may take her to court over these things simply because I can, and because 90 percent or more of what she says is demonstrably false, but on most days, knowing that she is a weak, defeated excuse for a human being is enough. I've admitted having a drinking problem and getting in trouble as a result in the past. All of my friends know this, as do a number of strangers. I've done interviews about it and blogged about it. These are not things someone does when he's concerned about "the secret" getting out.

      But I am not an utter immoral and amoral wreck of a person, like Kim is. For example, I have never bilked the Commonwealth of Massachusetts out of unemployment money while living in Indiana, like Kim did. I didn't try to get someone to lie about my job credentials to a headhunter, as she did. I haven't stiffed any of my friends for a few months' rent, as she has. I didn't cheat on my partner of about 11 years while using said person for money and food, as she did. And I have all of these things documented in e-mails and chat sessions, not that I plan to share these indiscriminately. I'm almost surprised she has continued with her nonsense given what she knows I have stored up here, but she is literally incapable of stopping without the law dropping the hammer on her. I used to feel a modicum of pity for her because she's clearly deranged, but not anymore. I have had problems, but no one but me pays my way through life, contrary to what Kim likes to assert. She herself would be in a shelter, on the streets, or back in her folks' place in Worcester were it not for her roommate's generosity.

      You can set an example for her by doing what you have been told to do. You know what I'm talking about. Good luck with running if that's in your game plan -- I'm in better shape than I have been in years and it feels wonderful.

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    2. My long lost sister! I'm so excited! She's totally real! Even you know that! But, side note, it's legal to collect unemployment from Mass in another state. Wow, you're angry. Keep up the Kim compliments though! They're great! Man, her boyfriend was really upset to hear she doesn't pay half her rent. The bank is going to be pissed about that imaginary money! How you doing in cleaning up your violent past? Got that RO taken off yet? Stopped stealing in Boulder? Kim works 40+ hours a week while going to school. How's the nursing degree going? Those collegiate bans are probably going to keep you writing erotica about women you coach though. Maybe charge more per ebook?

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  4. Hey Kevin, Sorry, Sorry. I definitely have been an idiot alot but try to go a lil easy on me. I'm harmless. My body can't handle any more beat downs. Can't. Nothing left in the tank. I truly think both You and Kim are equally great people even though you guys are at war. Just seems like a historic "running" cat and dog fight that totally got out of hand. Kim needs to be on a medication like Seroquel which would help her but when you go on a medication like that it makes running much, much tougher. She's fighting it to try to preserve her running career. But it hasn't been working. She needs to take better care of herself and take meds and work with her Doctor's or she will get very sick and possibly attempt suicide which would be such a sad, sad, sad way to go. Know one wants to see that happen to Kim. God no. She needs to take care of herself much better. She better. I think she is a really nice lady. Kevin.... she is not an old 34 by any means, Geez! She's fine, believe me, actually extremely hot. Always will be. Well I hope your running continues to go well Kevin. Geez Kevin, I hope you don't really think I am hatchet Harry, ha ha. Go a lil easy on me. I got feelings man, tenderness! Take care, you just miss New Hampshire Becky! Come back home. Stay healthy!

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  5. But Kev, there is always that chance!!! That maybe on a very cold, windy, and rainy fall night when your cozy warm reading a good book while drinking your tea a very upset Kimmy could very well become Race Directer, Founder, more importantly for her Winner and head Cleanup crew at your last race. Step up your training Kev and I think you will be alright, ha, ha!

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  6. "Geez Kevin, I hope you don't really think I am hatchet Harry, ha ha. Go a lil easy on me. I got feelings man, tenderness!" Beautiful.

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  7. You're right that Kim needs antipsychotics -- you should see some of the bizarre nonsense she's presently trying to post here. Apparently I'm a wannabe nursing student who writes erotica about his coaching clients because I'm banned from college campuses, or something. Even that's not quite as funny, though, as the idea that she works full-time, attends CU, and volunteers at the local humane society, but it's amusing nonetheless.

    The thing is, even if Kim was able to get her head on relatively straight, she'd still be a foul human being. You can't polish a turd, Mike. I'm in New England for the marathon and it's been interesting to learn just how many people thought she was a nasty, negative piece of work even before I met her and well before she accused a CMS member last year of cheating to win a race that he never even finished. Kim will always lie and deceive and cut corners to eke out her low-level existence as long as she can find enablers, and has openly said so, even bragged about it. In 2013, he plaintively told me, among many other things, that she was on the cusp of homelessness before shacking up with her current fella, something she said would last only long enough for her to regain the attention of a guy in Michigan who in fact wanted nothing to do with her.

    You clearly understand what you need to do to stay the course and how hard that can be. Ditto for this blogger. Kim, however, doesn't nothing but blame everyone but herself for everything that's wrong in her life. She's radioactive and rotten. I would have long forgotten about her gruesome existence if she'd simply done me the same courtesy when I dropped her as a nonpaying, non-compliant client well over two years ago. But she's obsessed, and as messed up as it is, part of her gets off on whatever attention I give her. She'd rather be loathed than ignored, which isn't as rare a trait as you'd think.

    I think it would be best to limit this discussion to e-mail from now on. I will send you any of the e-conversations Kim and I had that you care to read and let you make up your own mind about her. I know your addy already.

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    1. e-conversations is the best. That's elderly speak. Or rotted alkie speak. Man, maybe this guy can teach you how to be nice and how to get help. Check out of your coaching "career" and check into a program rather than just running away to fellow drunks in Mass. This guy could teach you something. And lying about your online postings is probably the worst thing to do to a student of network/internet security who is great at police forensics. Your accounts are all public and all creepy! Cheers!

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  8. Hey Kev, take care and I am sorry what your going through. I don't believe that stuff about you at all. That is for sure. Not at all. Not one bit. No,No,No. Swear to God. A person would have to be a bird brain to believe it. The internet is full of a lot foolish stuff. It's a real joke. Your good. If I thought you were weird I wouldn't be going on your blog and making jokes. Have a great night! Your the Best and stay that way, Mike

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    1. See that comment below from Kim ("Beth Proal")? As you can see, she's very agitated over my refusal to engage her directly. She remains fixated on the fantasy she desperately needs to be true but isn't -- that I don't have work or a place to live or respect from people. I mean, she *aches* for it: "You lose. You're screwed in life." Kim wouldn't know genuine love if it bit her in the ass, not that there is any threat of this happening. And if she actually got the heave-ho from her "boyfriend," she'd be on the streets.

      As for her claim that I should stop trying to being people down and that I'm a liar, that's enough to blow every irony meter from the Rockies to New England. Kim's whole existence is a brazen fiction. I can document and have documented every last thing I've said about her, which she makes easy by being to scatterbrained to keep track of her own bullshit.

      For example, she claims on her Facebook page to be attending CU-Boulder, and on her LinkedIn page she says she's been working at IBM here in Boulder County since late 2014.

      http://www.kemibe.com/kimFBjobclaims.jpg

      https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlysduclos

      Now let's look at what she wrote on the restraining order against me that the judge laughed out of court last month.

      http://www.kemibe.com/ksdro6.jpg

      Here she says she's taking classes at Front Range CC and working for Best Buy from home.

      Obviously these claims about her school and her employment are incompatible, and they don't even begin to scratch the surface of her dishonest blather. Of course, telling you these things is superfluous if you've read the pages on my Web site about this.

      She is the last person in the solar system to start yacking about other people supposedly slandering or libeling her. Not only does she not even know what those words mean, but she is completely without standing. Obsessive bottom-feeders whose lives center on online hate campaigns centered on manufactured accusations tend not to have much success convincing the system that they have been wronged.

      Anyway, have a good night.

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    1. Approved! http://i.imgur.com/NUeZRtn.jpg

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  10. Congrats on crazy drunks finally meeting! Help each other! Mike is way beyond Beck for sure. He's not an asshole and actually is a nice guy http://www.telegram.com/article/20070531/NEWS/705310722 Hey Beck, maybe you should join a program and stick with it other than public drinking and getting forced into rehab!

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  11. Mannnn deleted again. Wiig would not be happy about this. DIS-approved! Great job, journalistic author of facts! Controlling your own blog sure is a power trip!

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  12. OH BTW, I'm screen capping all my non-approved, deleted posts. Good times, bro. You're not a good person and we don't think you should coach women.

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    1. So much crazy in just two sentences.

      How can a comment be unapproved and deleted at the same time?

      Who the hell is "we"?

      And maybe best of all, what value would your own comments here have to any third parties?

      I paid for the audio of the court hearing on March 14 in which you told lie after easily demonstrated lie under oath. The judge was utterly dismissive of both you and your unprepared dunce of an attorney. The only reason you didn't get smacked with a perjury charge or thirty is because it was merely a hearing, not a trial of any sort.

      Keep pushing, and the world -- which, as you can tell from the parade of individuals on Letsrun, on Reddit, and elsewhere who keep deleting your posts, understands that you are a truly sick puppy -- will hear that circus act of a proceeding in the form of a giant MP3 file (you seem to keep forgetting I have nothing to hide and that this is not the case for you) and that same world will also be privy to all manner of things you sent me by e-mail and in Google Hangouts in Jan. 2014 and before that you would never, ever want the world to know.

      You talk like some Internet-savvy techie when you can't even use a proxy IP address to positive effect. You seem to forget the countless mammoth electronic trails you've left concerning your lying and malfeasnace, such as urging me take part in the stopdrinking sub-Reddit that you were a part of, only to later boast publicly and repeatedly about sucking down craft beers in breweries.

      You don't even disguise the fact that you're a classless clown. You told the roommate you stiffed in Indiana, my friend, that you lie because it gets you what you want. I guess what you want, then, is humiliation, because that is the endgame of all of this for you.

      I've given you two years and then some to stand down. I don't even rely on my coaching "business" for income at all (if you knew the kind of money I was actually making, you would hate me even more).

      But that doesn't mean I will let you spew lies unmolested about me. As I've emphasized, I don't care what you think of me and would actually be alarmed if you approved of me, because you consort with dirtbags, dregs and sexual deviants. I also don't care what you tell the few real friends you have for the time being about me. You're a complete waste of biomass and your opinions are garbage, and you write exactly like the unhinged person you are.

      But if you think you can use my "violent" history against me in the manner you keep trying to do, you are going to pay as heavy a price for trying to screw with me as I decide you should. My well of mercy for you and your mental problems ran dry some time ago.

      Now go ahead. Get screen shots of this and everything else. Such is your entire raison d'etre. Keep going. See where it gets you.

      Or better yet, for your sake if not my own, just go back to pretending to your dwindling array of Internet friends that you are leading some rich, productive existence, filled to the brim with running, sailing, knitting, studying full-time, working full-time, volunteering at the animal shelter, snowboarding, skiing, drinking, and more, and pretend you never heard of me. It doesn't matter to me if you weave tall tales about how much you're thriving for the benefit of people who are as stupid as you are.

      Anyway, I hope you at least realize what a gift you've left me with this splattering of alarmingly nutty stuff. My only real question is, doesn't Sean make any effort to drag you away from these endeavors? Or do you just lie to him like you lie to him and everyone else about everything under the sun?

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  13. Selective approval! Kristen Wiig does NOT approve!

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  14. This all matters! You matter! I take this seriously!

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